Time as Motion in the Order of Perspective
I know every passing generation
Thinks the younger one's
Foolish or, worse, stupid.
But when I hear the bees
Thickening spring in my neighbor's
Rosebud I know the young
Are going where the old have been,
While the old are coming
To the place the young have left.
-Peter Huggins

We all carry our parents around inside us.
Their presence is always felt, still nagging,praising,
threatening, judging, advising. the extent that our
parents were wise and loving, their presence is useful,
as well as pleasant company...When parents are
unwise, insensitive,harsh, unloving, or misguided, their
presence is detrimental.
Jack Lee Rosenberg and Majorie L. Rand
-Psychotherapists

"Everything can be taken away but one thing...
to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances."
-Victor Frankle, Man's Search for Meaning

"Don't be afraid to fail. Don't waste energy trying
to cover up failure. Learn from your failures and go
on to the next challenge. It's ok to fail. If your not
failing, you're not growing."
-H. Stanley Judd

All of us are afraid
sometimes; that's
human. When our lives
are ruled by fear, that's
addiction.

People who feel trapped will try anything to escape.
They'll try life-and-death things like
substance abuse,
high-risk sexual activity,
drinking and driving,
suicide.

"I reject the notion that human beings, as they die, are somehow marched in lock step through a series of stages of the dying process. On the contrary...the emotional states, the psychological mechanisms of defense, the needs and drives, are as variegated in the dying as they are in the nondying...They include such reactions as stoicism, rage, guilt, terror, cringing, fear, surrender, heroism, dependency, ennui, need for control, fight for autonomy and dignity, and denial."
-Edwin Shneidman

"The world is really not so unknowable. If I but keep my eyes from seeing too much, my ears from hearing to much, my mind from thinking too much, it becomes quite reasonable. I can even persuade myself I see all there is. If I but worship this deity, adhere to this virtue, suffer that pain, insist on that plan, world becomes quite manageable. If I but hush the voice of possibility both within and about me, the fear grows quieter, I am no longer afraid, so much."
-James F.T. Bugental

What is failure?
It is a word used to define a stage.
It is not a condemnation of character.
It is not a permanent condition.
It is not a fatal flaw.
It is not a contagious social disease.

"Those left behind are faced by a triple loss: that from death, rejection, and disillusionment...suicide takes away self worth. All these factors operate to increase the potential of hostility in the mourner and teh danger of his turning it upon himself as the only available or most appropriate target."
-Erich Lindeman and Ina May Greer

"Addiction isn't the battle you are fighting. The battle is with your thoughts and the psychological needs the addiction meets."
-Joel C. Robertson

"We drink for joy and become miserable. We drink for sociability and become argumentative. We drink for sophistication and become obnoxious. We drink to help us sleep and awake exhausted. We drink for exhilaration and end up depressed.

We drink to gain confidence and become afraid. We drink to make conversation flow and become incoherent. We drink to diminish our problems and see them multiply."
-Richard Blummer

"If facts are the seeds that later produce knowledge and wisdom, then the emotions and the impression of the senses are the fertile soil in which the seeds must grow."
-Rachael L. Carson

"...Every time you think you are not happy, say "I am happy." Say it strongly to yourself, even if your feelings are contradictory. Remember, it is your self-image and not you. Just as fast as a fish can move in the water, you can instantly change to a happy, balanced attitude."
-Tarthang Tulku

"The process of building self-image goes this way: A new reflection, a new experience, or a bit of new growth leads to a new success or failure, which in turn leads to a new or revised statement ahbout the self. In this fashion, each person's self-concept usually evolves throughout his lifetime."
-Dorothy Corkille Briggs

"The actuarial conditions that might have influenced her fate include such factors as what sex the child turns out to be, her place in the birth order of siblings (and how it relates to the parents' places in their own early families), the stage of the marriage at which she was born, the familie's economic situation and so on. Her destiny did not have anything to do with what sord of child she really was."
-Sheldon B. Kopp

"...studies of women have repeatedly shown disturbing patterns: lack of self-esteem, an inability to feel powerful or in control of one's life, a vulnerability to depression, a tendency to see oneself as less talented, less able than one really is. The myriad studies that have been done over the years give the distinct impression of constriction, a crippling, a sense of being somehow not quite as good, not quite as able, not quite as bright, not quite as valuable as men...when you leaf through the studies you can sense, floating in the air, ghosts of unborn dreams, unrealized hopes, undiscovered talents. The tragedies are the 'might have beens,' and they are the most poignant."
-Caryl Rivers, Rosalind Barnett and Grace Baruch

For me, anything that gives new hope,
new possibilities and new positive feelings
about ourselves
will make us more whole people
and thus more human, real and loving
in our relationships with others.
If enough of this happens,
the world will become a better place
for all of us.
I matter.
You matter.
What goes on between us matters.
Since I always carry me with me,
and I belong to me,
I always have something to bring
to you an me--
new resources,
new possibilities to cope differently
and to create anew.
-Virginia Satir